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Fear Created by Narcissistic Abuse by Dr. Tristan Sophia

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Fear Created by Narcissistic Abuse ~ My Life Story in a Nutshell ~ When I was 5 years old, I discovered cookies. I started eating a lot of them to calm my fears (it didn’t work). When I was 13, I discovered alcohol. I used whiskey and beer in place of sugar to calm my fears (those didn’t work either). What were my fears I wanted to quiet? I was afraid of getting into trouble with my parents, bullies, not being able to sleep…I’d become fearful of people in general. Where did this fear come from? For me it was …

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Are You All You Think About? by Dr. Tristan Sophia

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In my teens and 20’s, I was self-centered to the extreme. I literally thought about myself all the time. I thought about what others were doing to me: Saying passive-aggressive comments, cutting me off in traffic, or my supervisor making me do a task I detested. I also thought about what others were not doing to me: Not returning my call right away or not being invited to lunch with friends. I never lived in the moment because my head was in the past, reviewing how people had not been there for me, especially when I gave so much to …

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3 Easy Self-Care Tips for Women who Overgive

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Women these days can do it all, right? Have a career, be a good friend, create an amazing nest and care for everyone in it – wait, what? Everyone? Hmmm… Especially for women who have experienced narcissistic abuse, we tend to overgive. We usually put ourselves last on the To Do list of people to care for. (And a lot of times we don’t even get to us.) When my clients first come to me for recovery from narcissistic abuse, many of them lament that, because they have “so many things” to do (for others), there’s little time left for …

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What is a life coach by Dr. Tristan Sophia

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At age 49, I was desperate for a new career. I’d been working in the mental health field for over 30 years, 20 of them as a psychologist. You could say I was a little burned out. I live in the mountains far from any city and wanted an online business, so I could kiss my commute goodbye. I also wanted a career where I could use my hard-won mental health skills. Previous jobs had me working with clients who were not voluntarily seeking help and most of whom weren’t open to change, even though they wanted to feel better. …

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